This is probably not the normal post youd see on this site, so Im hoping it doesnt get a normal response. I have recently broken up with my boyfriend of some time, and I am just feeling hopeless about life and love. Im feeling like Ill never find someone again wholl love me, but Im also feeling like Ill never find someone who I can be attracted to. Now when I think about a falling in love again, all I can envision are men who are very similar to my ex, in looks as well as in personality and interests. Through this post, Im hoping to find people out there wholl remind me that I can find something new, and that this something new can be just as good or better. If you respond to this post, please be willing to talk openly about yourself and about your feelings on the subject. I am not looking for a quick hook-up, and I cant guarantee that Im even looking for a date at this point, though I can promise that I will see where things go eventually. I may be willing to talk on the phone, though I do enjoy establishing a base through e-mail first.
I need to be careful not to list too many qualities that Im looking for in a man, only because at this point Id probably be listing my ex-boyfriends qualities, but here are some things that are important to me: intelligence, a quirky/nerdy sense of humor, kindness and compassion, an adventurous spirit, a laid back personality but not too laid back, 420 friendly, liberal values and political orientation, an interest in the world Passion for music is a HUGE plus, as is owning or wanting to own a dog and an interest in good movies. Id prefer if you were between the ages of 28 and 32, though there is definite flexibility where that is concerned. I need to be able to talk to my partner, about anything and everything, including politics, current events, philosophy, love, personal issues, and trivial, silly things. Now this last part is a must- Though I have no problem with a little Jersey pride, I am NOT interested in men who make Jersey their life. I am interested in men who have traveled, lived outside of the area, plan on living outside of the area again, or at least a man who wants to do these things. I am not into guys who put gel in their hair, wear copious amounts of cologne, and go to clubs. I dont take too long getting ready in the morning, and I certainly dont want a man who takes longer than I do.
Now Ill tell you a bit about myself: Im an atheist/agnostic, and I do believe that similar religious values or the lack thereof is an important thing in a relationship, so Im looking for someone who considers himself an atheist or an agnostic. Im laid back, though unfortunately I can let stress and anxiety overpower me at times, which I am working on. For the most part, I do not listen to current or popular music. There are some exceptions, but Ill list a few of the artists I enjoy- The Beatles, Ween, Devo, Railroad Earth, Bob Marley, Swampadelica, The Kinks, Les Claypool, Queen, The Talking Heads. I like going to shows and festivals. At the same time, I love being able to laugh at the newest, silliest popular song with my partner. At any given time, there is probably no more than one movie I am interested in seeing in theatres. If going to see movies like Paul Blart: Mall Cop is your thing, then I am probably not the girl for you. I do like watching documentaries and really, really BAD movies (the kind that are so bad theyre great), and movies that make you think, like Being John Malkovich. I have no problem with guys who enjoy catching the latest action flick, just dont expect me to tag along. I like to drink good beers, wine, and whiskey. I am not an outdoorsy girl by nature, though I am slowly getting more and more into camping and hiking. Dont expect me to be very good at those things, though I am willing to give them a try. Sports are not incredibly important to me (however, when theyre on, I do watch the Olympics like its my job), though Ill admit theres something very relaxing about drinking a beer and watching football or basketball, and I have no problem with doing that every once in a while.
Wow, I just wrote a lot. I dont expect many replies, and kudos to you if you read all of that.