So, I'm certainly not too crazy about the idea of looking for love on craigslist, but where the hell else is a 20 year old masculine guy going to find other masculine gay men for more than just an anonymous hookup? So what the hell, I'll give it a try. (Seriously though, if you know where, let me know)
I see lots of people here talking about "friends with benefits" when they're really just looking for a regular sex partner they'll never talk to outside the bedroom. Don't get me wrong I'm all for some crazy hot sex, but I want there to be more to this than just sex, I'm really in it for both friendship AND benefits. I guess I'd like to expand things beyond simply friends, nothing serious, just a real casual relationship where we share some emotional connection, spend time together biking around in the desert, BBQing, camping, fishing, or just spending a quiet night together watching a movie or something.
Anyways, I'm a 20 year old ASU student, one of the manliest guys you'll ever meet, you'd never guess in a million years that I'm bi without me telling you. I'm 6'6"/315lbs, I'm a big guy with a pretty solid frame, but I'll admit I'm on the chubby side right now, but overall still in pretty decent shape. I've been out since August, I don't flaunt my sexuality but I'm not at all ashamed of it, I just don't talk about it unless it's relevant to the discussion, no need to be one of those "in your face" guys who has to bring up being gay/bi every 5 minutes.
I'm looking for someone older than me, I guess if I had to choose an age range I'd say 23-30 years old is ideal, but please don't be shy if you're older, or if you're closer to my age. You should be manly, masculine, like any other guy you'd meet on the street. You should know how to change your own oil, cutting down a tree shouldn't be any sort of challenge, etc. (Not that I'd actually quiz you on this stuff, but you get the idea of what I want, a man's man.) But certainly don't be too wrapped up in your own masculinity that you can't be a sensual lover. Smokers (420 or cigarettes) and drinkers are fine, just don't be a total alcoholic or a meth addict. If you want to keep on the DL I'm ok with that, but I don't want someone who's so deep in the closet that you're afraid for us to be seen in public together, even if we're just acting as two normal friends.
Sexually (I know I said I want this to be about much more than sex, but let's be real, sexual compatibility is a must for any kind of relationship), I see myself primarily in the submissive bottom role, sometimes you'll be gentle and loving while we're cuddling, and other times you'll be as rough as you want. I'm still pretty new to this guy-on-guy stuff but I'm not afraid to explore my kinkier side, though plain old vanilla sex is great too.
For the most part, as long as we're in public we'd just be two normal guys hanging out, though I have no opposition to holding hands or a quick goodbye kiss or anything low-key. I'm not afraid for people to see that I'm bi and with another guy, but I just hate those obnoxious couples, gay or not, who feel the need to vigorously make out with each other in the middle of Wal-Mart.
If you think we'd get along both in and out of the bedroom, please email me and tell me about yourself. Feel free to include stats and I'd like to know how old you are, but I don't want a bunch of one line emails. I'm not looking for someone to hookup with tonight, I'm looking for someone I can connect with and build a trusting relationship/friendship with, so really open up and tell me what you're like. Pictures would also certainly be appreciated.
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